The way we see and talk about ourselves is who we will become. If we believe that to be true, why do we talk about ourselves the way we do?
Think about it. Anytime someone gives you a compliment what do you do? Many times I’m guessing because I still do it too, you some how reject the gift of a compliment with a negative reply by making it look like it’s no big deal even though you may have worked your butt off to get were you are or saved, worked hard & sacrificed to have what you have.
Since our words & thoughts are powerful and have the ability to create, I decided last night to remove the words Hot Mess from my description of myself on my social media bios.
I’m not a hot mess. I’m free. I’m free to be me. I love me. All of me. Even the parts that I’m are not yet free. I will not own hot mess anymore. It doesn’t honor God, myself, my daughters or the women who came before me.
A few years ago, I began using that line when speaking with other women. I wanted to connect with them by letting them know, I don’t have my life all together. I still struggle in some areas. I didn’t want them to see me as someone who thought I was better than them. Because I don’t.
My hope has always been for a woman to look at me and my life and say if she can do it, I surely know I can. When we share our struggles and our success, it helps other women know they are not alone and they can do even more and greater things in their lives.
I used that word because even though my life was not perfect, I still loved me even with all my quirks and dysfunctions and wanted the same for other with the message you don’t have to be perfect. Just be you. And this is something I believe deeply today.
But, You and I do not have to put ourselves down to make other women or men feel better about themselves.
This is not helpful. Yes, we still get to be vulnerable, authentic, kind, joyful and compassionate while at the same time strong, courageous, confident and free.
Just because we don’t have it all together does not mean we are a hot mess.
In the book Untamed, Glennon Doyle talks about a time when she was sitting at Oprah Winfrey’s Kitchen table. Oprah asked her the question, ” what are you most proud of in your life.” Glennon began to panic and mumbled something along the lines as I don’t feel proud. I’m feel grateful.
Oprah put her hand on hers and said, “Don’t do that. Don’t be modest. You don’t want modest, you want humility. Humility comes from inside out.
It’s time to stop pretending to be less that who you are.
Jesus does not want or need me or you to go around proclaiming how messy we are.
He doesn’t see us this way. Instead, he sees you and me as wonderfully and beautifully made.
So, no longer will I tell myself I’m not a hot mess. I’ve exactly who I’m suppose to be. And so are you.
You my friend are not a mess. You are exactly who your family and world needs you to be.
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